tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post9160780581273892615..comments2023-09-22T07:03:03.280-04:00Comments on The Clarity of Night: Anxiety Study: The ResultsJason Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14851992219298316168noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-72874348244481108002010-03-08T22:31:00.386-05:002010-03-08T22:31:00.386-05:00Blaine, I hope you find some of the observations h...Blaine, I hope you find some of the observations helpful.<br /><br />Atrisa, does it hold true for you, do you think? Are you an avoider?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-785007537851046852010-03-08T04:30:28.197-05:002010-03-08T04:30:28.197-05:00Wow this was a fascinating read, something almost ...Wow this was a fascinating read, something almost everyone can relate to. Seriously insightful. I never thought that being the avoider means there is greater anxiety level, I would've thought it was the other way round.Atrisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02802985640025954873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-18638478877430259862010-03-05T10:46:16.104-05:002010-03-05T10:46:16.104-05:00Interesting. I am reflecting on my own relationshi...Interesting. I am reflecting on my own relationships and how they fit into your article. I guess I would have to be considered to be an avoider.Blaine from Anxiety and Stress Be Gone Said:http://www.anxietyandstressbegone.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-27792457112130598382010-03-04T22:59:20.183-05:002010-03-04T22:59:20.183-05:00She Writes, then you can see how that can happen. ...She Writes, then you can see how that can happen. How natural a dynamic it is between two people.<br /><br />Margaret, I know how weird it sounds to "discover" that you've been feeling anxiety. I liken it to crossing a street and suddenly hearing a car horn blare at you. You think, "I have to get off this road now!" It feels like important information is being given to you. However, your heart may be pounding and you feel the need to run, but no car is actually coming. That reaction might be just anxiety, no more. It's NOT information to be acted on. If fact, whipping into action almost always makes the situation worse.<br /><br />Mona, wow, that must have really traumatized you! In fact, even today, reliving that memory probably has a physical effect on you. However, knowing it's there is the first step in learning how to push back against it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-54193295960969556082010-03-04T11:21:22.689-05:002010-03-04T11:21:22.689-05:00O Dear. I remember the timewhen I was at playschoo...O Dear. I remember the timewhen I was at playschool which was in the same premisis of the college where my mother used to teach at, and I was 2 1/2 yeara of age. I saw a woman walking on the road from my clasroom window and thought it was my mother leaving me . I sneaked out of the class, and ran screaming after her on the raod, but the woman had disappeared. I kept running on and calling my mother and weeping inconsolably, till I reached home ( which was about 5 miles away from school) . I can still remember the feeling I went though!Monahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615034229525061880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-71553866843661076062010-03-04T07:51:15.597-05:002010-03-04T07:51:15.597-05:00Interesting!
I've found out that I'm an a...Interesting! <br />I've found out that I'm an avoider. My husband on the other hand fits into the category of clinger. <br /><br />Interesting to find out that both have the fear of being alone. <br /><br />I never thought of myself as being high on anxiety but when I think about it, I believe it's there but that I try to cover it up.<br /><br />Thanks Jason for all the work gone into this study.Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17286909482780350161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-39291059368070279722010-03-04T05:33:36.518-05:002010-03-04T05:33:36.518-05:00Fascinating. I have been both.Fascinating. I have been both.Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-68063610204095394542010-03-03T22:19:50.396-05:002010-03-03T22:19:50.396-05:00Shakespeare, I'm an avoider too, so I understa...Shakespeare, I'm an avoider too, so I understand what you're saying. It was a shock for me to realize how much anxiety I feel. Outwardly, I seem unusually calm and unaffected. I guess I believed it too.<br /><br />Shadow, glad it provoked some good thought!<br /><br />Awareness, you're touching on a similar concept as Imago theory. The things that wounded us in childhood feel comfortable. They are old challenges that we really want to solve. For example, if we clung to an emotionally distant parent in childhood, we will be drawn to a distant lover, because we want to solve that old problem and heal that old wound.<br /><br />Four Dinners, your answers to questions 21, 22, and 23 put you in the avoider category. I'm an avoider also. You answers helped me to determine whether avoiders scored the highest overall anxiety levels.<br /><br />Terri, you can definitely see my avoider tendencies in many of my stories, poems, etc. I always got the sense that you saw it there, because you have similar pushes and pulls. Thanks for sharing here!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-28310229183565384512010-03-03T21:21:30.158-05:002010-03-03T21:21:30.158-05:00That all makes a whole lot of sense and pretty muc...That all makes a whole lot of sense and pretty much fits with what I know about myself. I'm an Avoider, glad to be of service :) <br />If I may be so bold as to take it a step further, this is probably also tied to those walls you wrote about not too long ago; we build the walls around our hearts to protect ourselves from being hurt. More avoidance.Terrihttp://misterri.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-3211458667466484522010-03-03T18:51:26.091-05:002010-03-03T18:51:26.091-05:00None the wiser old bean.
Where do I fit into this...None the wiser old bean.<br /><br />Where do I fit into this?<br /><br />Just post the names old bean!<br /><br />If they don't like it they shouldn't have participated.<br /><br />Come on!<br /><br />Inquiring minds need to know!!!DILLIGAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520650650468676361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-17120601952805537772010-03-03T11:51:21.334-05:002010-03-03T11:51:21.334-05:00Very interesting! I think its bang on correct. I ...Very interesting! I think its bang on correct. I would add that clingers also develop their behaviour if they have experienced rejection repeatedly in previous relationships or life events as well. <br /><br />What I've been thinking about lately is that often the personality traits two people are originally attracted to in another person can eventually be what pushes them apart. Opposites attract because of the traits one admires in another person. Then, it becomes an irritation that festers. Once this happens, the clinger/avoider behaviour kicks in? perhaps. <br /><br />Lots to chew on here. I like it. :)awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-7272749202517962892010-03-03T08:50:53.190-05:002010-03-03T08:50:53.190-05:00this was mighty interesting...this was mighty interesting...Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15498010.post-4568412439843995152010-03-03T04:08:15.493-05:002010-03-03T04:08:15.493-05:00I so see this at work in my own life. I am an avoi...I so see this at work in my own life. I am an avoider, plain and simple, and thank God my husband isn't a clinger, or I would go insane! <br /><br />Unfortunately, I do come across clingers... and they drive me crazy...Dr. Cheryl Carvajalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323455180953109460noreply@blogger.com