Just a little uncertainty
Can bring you down
And nobody wants to know you now
And nobody wants to show you how
So if you're lost and on your own
You can never surrender
--Corey Hart, Never Surrender
"Surrender is the answer."
"I don't think so."
"When you kneel down to things greater than you, you know true peace."
"And why does kneeling equate with peace?"
"It's the letting go. The rest. The not-having-to-fight. You can't do it on your own. You must know that. You need someone to carry you in the end. And you can only get picked up when you surrender."
"So, when you surrender, the burdens go away."
"I see. But don't you lose a lot more than burdens when you kneel?"
"Nothing that you need. Nothing that you miss."
"That's only true if your pain is so huge that it totally eclipses everything else."
"What else? There's only confusion and self-destruction. Who needs those? When you let go of those, you have only rest."
"But having full responsibility for your life is not just a burden. You have the power to create your own world, your own reality."
"You don't create reality."
"We create reality all the time. Computers are real, aren't they? They have fundamentally changed how we experience life."
"But it can be hard to follow your heart. You can get all sorts of push-back."
"Sure. It might come from others. They may judge you. They may try to knock you down for following your own path instead of theirs. Or, it might come from yourself. You might harbor traumas, self-hatred. Or you might deeply doubt yourself."
"You don't know the power of surrender."
"No, I think I do. It's the perfect state of the known. The certain. The predictable. But the price is control over your own life."
"You're just being stubborn. I understand. You're not ready to let go."
"Or, maybe you're frustrated that I'm not doing what you're telling me to do. Or that you want me to stop doing what's bad for you."
"Some day you'll choose to be truly happy. You'll choose to accept your place in the world."
"I sincerely hope I don't."
"But you will."
"I'm a person who needs to make my place in the world. Not accept the one handed to me. Sometimes it's hard. Sometimes it really hurts. But I wouldn't have it any other way."
(*For you personality type aficionados out there, this is an imagined conversation between a rational and a guardian, two types which can be polar opposites.)