Everyone is doing a spectacular job delving into these questions! Thank you!! I hope you're finding this self-reflection fun and illuminating.
As we dig, please keep in mind that one answer is not better (or more healthy) than another. We are not looking for things wrong with us. Each of the two groupings of answers has its own positives, and its own negatives. They are simply different constructs of attachment (and I'm sure there are more than these two).
I wasn't satisfied with a couple elements of my questions, but that's my fault, not yours. I'd like to drill down a bit farther with four more questions. If you've participated in questions 1 - 4, please answer this series also. If you're just joining us, please answer both sets of questions--the ones posted Monday and the ones posted today (Wednesday). Friday is the big discussion!!
Which of the two statements in each question do you agree with more?
a. I hate emotional upheaval, regardless of whether I believe I'm right or wrong.
b. I hate when things in my life aren't the way I was expecting them to be.
a. If something has gone wrong, then I should have done better. It's most likely up to me to fix it.
b. If something has gone wrong, then we can work it out, as long as we do it together.
a. "You don't understand!" (Angry and frustrated.)
b. "I'm trying to understand." (Concerned and worried.)
a. I hope to find it (or achieve it) someday.
b. If only people would see how good the world is, they would be happy.